Emu XL-7 & MP-7 User's Group

I received my brand new XL-7 and it had the 1.0 OS.   I downloaded the 
updated OS easily enough and unzipped it ok.   So I loaded the EZ loader 
program (I have a microspft java environment apparently version 5.00.3309) 
and it seemed to load ok.

However it turns out if I use the EZ Loader program once and then close it, 
it hangs when I try to open it a second time.

Anyway, once I have it open, I get to the point where I've chosen the file to 
be sent (the new OS) and the XL-7 LED reads "Searching for OS" and its midi 
out light is beeping steadily but the download button never becomes available 
on the Downloader program.

Also, the XL-7 is NOT one of the midi devices in the "configure midi device" 
item so I cannnot choose the xl-7 to send the info to.

Why?

I have the adpater connected to my PC(running Windows ME) sound card, a Sound 
Blaster Live! Value card, and the midi out of the computer goes to the midi 
in of the xl-7 and the midi in of the computer goes to the midi out of the 
xl-7.  Does it make a difference which midi out of the xl-7 is connected?

How do I check if the midi on the computer is working since I've done no 
previous midi work on this computer?  What else could I do to get this 
working?

Gerry D