I agree, life sometimes does suck and compassion is necessary. However, the
meaning of compassion is "deep sympathy" or "pity." That's not what I was
talking about. You can show someone compassion, but still hold them
responsible in the long run.
Compassion for one's personal life might allow someone to get away with
something (for a while) that wouldn't otherwise be tolerated, but there are
limits.
You might have "compassion" for a bank robber because he is poor and trying
to feed his kids, but what about when he kills your wife because she didn't
want to give up her diamond ring? The person's actions are the overriding
factor, and always should be.
I think Todd learned that the silent treatment doesn't work. Hopefully if
there is every trama in his life again, he will remember how this affected a
lot of people and if he is in the midst of dealing with people (like
everyone is most of the time) he will try harder to keep those relationships
and activites going.
I know of several engineers that are very poor at people skills. I would say
they are smarter than me (which isn't too terribly difficult) be I am the
one that always has a steady stream of work. Why? Because I don't drop the
ball (very often) Yes, I mess up once in a while, but to most companies, I
communicate very well even when things aren't going great. (Try telling you
boss you missed yet another "deadline") Shit happens (I'm going through a
bunch of it right now actually) and for me that's why some of my projects
are extremely delayed. However, I try and be as truthful as I can (with
whatever knowledge I have obtained at the time I make a particular
statement) and people APPRECIATE that.
I really hope Todd sails through the stormy weather he's had recently.
That's all...
Tony
> -----Original Message-----
> From: mmarsh100 [mailto:mmarsh@...]
> Sent: Sunday, April 07, 2002 3:13 PM
> To: motm@yahoogroups.com
> Subject: [motm] Re: OMS-410 Kits
>
>
> Tony -
>
> On the other hand, life sometimes sucks. It's up to us to make it
> better. Compassion is still a good thing.
>
> Mike
>
> --- In motm@y..., "Tony Karavidas" <tony@e...> wrote:
> > That's really surprizing actually. I'm the one you're obviously
> talking
> > about since I "spoke up" on the list, but I did receive a few
> private emails
> > stating Todd should be held liable for his actions. And if you
> review the
> > list's emails about the topic, people were pretty pissed off.
> >
> > It's not that I have ANYTHING againt Todd, in fact he is a pretty
> good
> > customer of mine. The surprise is that you would let someone "get
> away with
> > it." Imagine if Paul or John, or I took your money then decided to
> skip out
> > for a long while. What would you say? No biggie?
> >
> > Everyone should be responsible for what the do or don't do. This
> isn't to
> > single out Todd at all, but if someone takes your money, then
> doesn't
> > provide the service or product they claimed they would when the
> money was
> > handed over, when does it end? If it wasn't for a generally decent
> society
> > based on rules, honor, morals, etc, we'll all just be robbing each
> other and
> > screwing whomever we could whenever we could.
> >
> > Maybe the "let it slide" attitude is why so many people try and get
> away
> > with crap. Someone in my neighborhood has been stealing mail and
> using the
> > info to pay bills electronically. The police, the bank, the credit
> card
> > companies, AND the person who's had their mail stolen ALL know who
> is doing
> > it. (A female by the way if you all thought only men do crap like
> that.) No
> > one is willing to do anything about it! The police won't do crap
> unless
> > someone files charges; the bank doesn't care if it's under a
> certain amount;
> > the homeowner who was hit has "protection" for the most part so
> they want to
> > just forget about it.
> >
> > Anyway I've digressed enough.
> >
> > Tony Karavidas
> > Encore Electronics
> >
> > http://www.EncoreElectronics.com
> >
> > Designers of "The best MIDI to CV converter on the planet." -
> Keyboard Oct.
> > 1997
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > > -----Original Message-----
> > > From: J. Larry Hendry [mailto:jlarryh@i...]
> > > Sent: Sunday, April 07, 2002 11:55 AM
> > > To: MOTM List
> > > Subject: Re: [motm] OMS-410 Kits
> > >
> > >
> > > For the record, with one exception (and that person did not order
> > > a 410 kit
> > > from Todd), everyone said, forget it and move on. That's the
> kind of
> > > response I expected from the people on this list. In the mean
> > > time I think
> > > you have each received a note from Todd about delivery.
> > >
> > > Larry
> > >
> > > ----- Original Message -----
> > > From: Tentochi <tentochi@c...>
> > > The OMS-410 Kits are shipping this week.
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
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