[sdiy] Spouse Gating

[Rude 66]

i finally convinced my wife to sing during our live shows. she uses the nord
modular's vocoder:
http://www.xs4all.nl/%7Erude66/live/stubnitz/pages/rude%2066%20live%20stubni
tz%20amsterdam%20000.htm and sings on the records as well.
there are women/girls with similar interests out there. my wife loves the
look of old synths and test gear, and she's a bit of a car nut. i know
several others that build music installations, do circuit bending or build
their own instruments. i know several female dj's who are into working with
analogue sound and producing in general.
i don't think i'd ever get rid of my synths or records. actually i feel it's
very unreasonable to ask someone to give up his or her hobby if you see that
they obviously care about it, or diss it as 'stupid' or 'dumb' or 'toys'.
that'd be a first warning sign for me.. in the end it isn't even all about
compromising, but about giving each other space to do your own thing as
well, and taking an interest in each other's ehm.. interests.

r./
(enough life lessons for now..)



>
> > Well, your method is quite sound, because it certainly has worked out in
your
> > favor.  I can't imagine having a wife that takes an active interest in
these
> > sorts of things (and also performs with you - music, that is).
> >
> > Cheers,
> > Scott
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: harrybissell <harrybissell at prodigy.net>
> > Sent: Jun 7, 2004 3:07 PM
> > To: Scott Stites <scottnoanh at peoplepc.com>
> > Cc: allenre at umich.edu, "R. D. Davis" <rdd at rddavis.org>,
> > "synth-diy at dropmix.xs4all.nl" <synth-diy at dropmix.xs4all.nl>
> > Subject: Re: [sdiy] Spouse Gating
> >
> > LOL I'm glad I read this post.  I thought that "spouse gating" was
showing
> > them the
> > door when they didn't work out...  something I've done a few times :^P
> >
> > H^) harry
> >
> > Scott Stites wrote:
> >
> > > Congratulations Ryan; not married yet, but you have already been
introduced
> > to the concept of 'wife gating'.  This is a term Larry Hendry and I
coined a
> > while back through an email exchange.  To be fair, the term should be
changed
> > to spouse gating, to cover that .01% of husbands who have wives that are
into
> > Synth DIY.
> > >
> > > The concept is this:  you are the envelope generator, your wife is the
VCA,
> > or low pass filter, or low pass gate, depending on her personality.  If
she's
> > a bandpass filter, you may be in real trouble, depending on her Q.
> > >
> > > Anyway, the idea is favors, money, attention, repairs around the
house,
> > etc. replace voltage as the medium of control. The goal is that you
generate
> > a long, sustained, life-long note.  You apply the bias ("Here honey, I
> > thought you'd like this new set of diamond earrings" or (to be fair) "Oh
look
> > honey, here's a special on chrome wheels for that lovely hopped up and
> > still-not-too-rusty 1980 Toyota pickup of yours").  This opens up the
spouse
> > gate, and lets the signal (IE parts purchases, junky rooms, weird
noises,
> > etc.) pass through unattenuated.
> > >
> > > Some people don't quite get the hang of spouse gating.  They're like
Morton
> > Subotnick on a Pixie-Stix(TM) binge and fire off a series of rapid,
short
> > blips of bias.  Not good.  You wind up with only brief periods of
contiguous
> > Synth DIY time, and forget that Batz room.  You want a nice, flowing
Tomita
> > attack with a very high sustain and infinite decay.  This keeps the good
> > stuff coming.  Until of course, the electric company (read credit card
> > company) pulls the plug on both the EG *and* VCA.  So be careful about
that.
> > >
> > > A real-life example of spouse gating:  My wife has been on an extended
> > return home to VN.  She took X amount of dollars with her.  Vietnam is
still
> > a fairly inexpensive place to be (it's getting more expensive) but she
took
> > plenty of dough.  I get a call the other day..."Honey, I'm out of money
can
> > you send me some?".  That's the trigger.  I could have easily inverted
the
> > envelope by exclaiming "What??!!!"  (that's all it takes, you know), but
> > sweetly it was "How much and when, honey?".  This will allow the
> > ex-post-facto purchases I've made in her absence pass through, though
maybe
> > still with a bit of high end clipping.
> > >
> > > Cheers,
> > > Scott
> > >
> > > > I'm not married yet, but my fiancee has told me that I can have a
room of
> > > > music/electronic stuff (the basement, I'm guessing) if she can have
a
> > room
> > > > dedicated to shoes.  See, it's all about compromise. ;)
> > > >
> > > > Ryan
> > > >
> > > > > Definitely!  Just curious about something though... something that
> > > > > some other bachelors are perhaps also wondering about: Those of
you
> > > > > who've gotten married, and kept all of your valued posessions, how
did
> > > > > you do it?  Those of you who've gotten married and had to get rid
of
> > > > > valued posessions, what early warning signs should we be on the
> > > > > lookout for before it's too late?  Such vital information needs to
be
> > > > > passed down to others in the best intersts of mankind and SDIY.
> > > > >
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