[sdiy] sdiy marriage troubles?

[Sam Ecoff]

Hi Dan,

Although my stuff is in the basement, I too had complaints from my  
wife at first. However, the profits from the first batch of  
Synthasonic modules I sold went to buy her a new washer and dryer (the  
things she wanted most at the moment) and ever since, the attitude has  
changed... :-) On a more serious note... why not ask her if she has  
any thoughts on a more appropriate location, or at least a location  
which wouldn't cause problems? Otherwise, perhaps for the time being,  
put away everything but the synth when you're not actively working on  
it (a huge PITA, I know, but that's what I used to do when we were in  
an apartment). Call me neutered, but I'm to the point where I am far  
more willing to compromise than I once was just because it's less  
painful than arguing....

I think it's tough for musicians because we're all very passionate  
about our job/hobby (jobby?). When you like what you do, even if you  
are a professional musician, many people (even your spouse) can be  
suspicious that you are incurring expenses for fun, and not as a  
result of your business needs. I make 100% of my living from various  
aspects of the music biz, and I frequently find myself having to  
explain that I actually needed to drop $2300 on new gear for the  
studio, or place $500 orders with Mouser on a regular basis. I have  
had to frequently admit that I would still be willing to spend the  
money on these things even if it wasn't my job, which makes all of the  
expenses a hard sell with my wife.

Good luck. Marital stress is no fun.

Sam E.
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Milwaukee, WI 53202
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On Oct 4, 2008, at 9:03 PM, Dan Snazelle wrote:

> can anyone give me some advice on how to deal with wives who are  
> angry about sdiy mess...we live in a small apartment so most if not  
> all of my sdiy work goes on in the bedroom...which at this point we  
> have divided into two sections...my work area and the bedroom.
>
> soon enough i hope to have an office but for now it is becoming a  
> major strain in our relationship....but the synth is not leaving and  
> neither is electronics.
>
> p.s. at this point we cant afford anything bigger and we dont have  
> any basement.
>
> thanks