[sdiy] Messy workshop and Into the future (was Old Age and Synth-DIYers)

[Czech Martin]

In generall, you need a marriage contract.
This is very neccessary, because most legal systems
leave you in the dark.

If you take the step and marry, this is really the most important
legal step you can take in your life!
But nobody tells you. I do not know how it is in the USA or GB or France,
but in Germany the divorce standard solution was changed strongly in favour
to women in the 1970s (that is to say: in favour of the economical weaker).
These changes were certainly aimed to the best, unfortunately
it came out absurdely wrong.

The only way is now: make a contract before marriage. 

The contract should state that each person will keep its property.
So , if you own a house, a TV, a car (i.e.: you bought it with your
money) it will stay yours, it can not be taken away during divorce.
Also true for everything you inherit from your parents.
It will be all yours forever.

Keep your own bank accounts. So no discussion about the shoe
business or other expenses. The spouse will have to pay from
her seperate account, and if it is empty, it's her fault, not
yours.

Try to seperate all money affairs completely.

The contract should further state that the person which is actively forcing
the divorce (by apllying to court) will get no alimoney or pension
or whatsoever payment from the "inactive" partner.
As long as no other solution is aggreed upon.

So you are safe. In the worst case you will not loose a cent,
but of course have still the emotional problems of divorce.

It is simply a contract of to adult people. This was very usual
in the past.

If your partner does not want to sign, this is flashing red alert
sign! Do not marry before the ink is dry!

Marriage is not about romance, you need no paper for love.
Marriage is a legal act, nothing more, so you should build
this in a reasonable way.

Another thing: do your spouse and yourself a favour:
if you do the expense of a contract, to the "last will" contract
at the same time. Death needs no reason and can come suddenly.
If I'm dead, why shouldn't she have it all to 100%, and vice versa.

Otherwise the remaining partner will not only suffer from the loss,
but also have big financial problems.

m.c.


> -----Original Message-----
> From: owner-synth-diy at dropmix.xs4all.nl
> [mailto:owner-synth-diy at dropmix.xs4all.nl]On Behalf Of Ian Fritz
> Sent: Montag, 7. Juni 2004 21:43
> To: music.maker at gte.net; synth-diy at dropmix.xs4all.nl
> Subject: Re: [sdiy] Messy workshop and Into the future (was 
> Old Age and
> Synth-DIYers)
> 
> 
> At 01:23 PM 6/7/2004, Scott Gravenhorst wrote:
> > >
> > >Definitely!  Just curious about something though... something that
> > >some other bachelors are perhaps also wondering about: Those of you
> > >who've gotten married, and kept all of your valued 
> posessions, how did
> > >you do it?  Those of you who've gotten married and had to 
> get rid of
> > >valued posessions, what early warning signs should we be on the
> > >lookout for before it's too late?  Such vital information 
> needs to be
> > >passed down to others in the best intersts of mankind and SDIY.
> >
> >There is no clue.  It happens like a thief in the night, but 
> ONLY after 
> >you are
> >married.  She won't ever tell you her plan until after it's 
> too late.  My
> >workshop was in one of the 3 bedrooms (now my son's) and the 
> music studio was
> >1/3 of the living room.  She lived with me for 3 months 
> before we got married,
> >and said absolutely nothing.  After we got married, the axe 
> >fell.  Fortunately,
> >I made enough money that I was able to spend some to convert 
> the garage 
> >into an
> >office which is where I am right now.  All of my stuff is 
> down here.  I had to
> >get rid of some, a PDP 11/04 system with 3 RK05s was donated 
> to a local
> >university.  I really had no use for it anyway.  The upshot 
> is that there 
> >was no
> >warning whatsoever, just all of a sudden one day when it was 
> legally too 
> >late to
> >do anything about it, I had to deal with the stuff in the 
> livingroom and 
> >bedroom.
> 
> That's right, they change as soon as they get married.  And the shoe 
> business should be a HUGE red flag.  BIG trouble.  She will 
> tell you "go 
> ahead honey" when you want to buy parts, and then use it as a 
> justification 
> to spent ten times as much on shoes.  You are in BIG trouble, 
> son.  Of 
> course you won't listen to us, but at least we have done our 
> duty to warn you.
> 
> 
>